Balancing the Hats: Motherhood, Social Media, and Writing Without Losing Your Mind

I wear three main hats: Mom, Social Media Manager, and Author. I love each one, but figuring out when to switch between them? That’s the real challenge.

Balancing hats is an art form. Not the kind you find in a circus—because juggling? That’s a disaster waiting to happen in my world. Hats, though? Those I can balance. Some days they’re stacked neatly, other days they’re sliding down my face while I’m trying to make dinner.

The Hardest Part

The trickiest part of wearing multiple hats isn’t the weight—it’s knowing when to swap them. I tend to hyperfocus. One moment I’m knee-deep in a social media project, following all the little rabbit trails that pop up, and the next thing I know my alarm is telling me it’s time to pick up the kids from school. And that beautifully organized to-do list? Still untouched.

The Best Part

Here’s the thing—I genuinely love all my roles. Whether it’s sitting in a spotless living room after a day of cleaning, having my kids open up about their day (even the hard stuff), or finishing a creative project at 5 a.m. with hot coffee in hand—it’s all deeply rewarding in its own way.

There is no such thing as a perfectly balanced day—so always keep that in mind. At least, I know I have to. I take the little wins with pride. Even if I manage to wear each hat for only a limited amount of time, it still feels like a victory. Outsiders might not get it, but those moments matter to me.

My “System” (If You Can Call It That)

I am an early morning person. My favorite hours are before the world wakes up—just me, a playlist, a hot cup of coffee, and no one asking for snacks. This is my prime creative time. I use it to work on social media projects, brainstorm, draft, design, or even plan my kids’ birthday parties (and trust me, I go all out).

But life happens. Basketball season throws off my schedule. Summer breaks my school-year rhythm completely. Sometimes my routines stick, sometimes they don’t—and I’ve learned to make peace with that.

Priorities Over Perfection

My home and my kids come first. That’s why I left the traditional 9–5. It’s also why my book still isn’t published, and why I don’t write much during the summer. I protect that time for family and accept that some seasons aren’t for publishing—they’re for living.

Letting Go of the Guilt

Mindset shifts have to happen to find even a little bit of balance in life—or at least a semblance of balance. For me, that meant getting off social media completely. I don’t have personal accounts, and you won’t ever find me on socials for my author projects either. It’s a time and energy drain I’m not willing to sacrifice for.

And when I drop the ball elsewhere, my husband reminds me it’s not the end of the world. Unless I accidentally pack our son’s shorts into his gym bag—he may tease me about it for a couple of days but he is still the calm collected one reminding me that I can’t do it all, all the time.

Protecting Creative Energy

Author work is the hat I wear the least right now—it’s not an obligation yet. When school’s in session, I get pockets of time to write. In between, I connect with my stories through small creative tasks—Pinterest boards, website tweaks, research. And when life doesn’t allow even that, I remind myself this is just the season I’m in.

Final Encouragement

No one is you, and you are not anyone else. The comparison game will steal your joy. Do what you can, when you can, and take care of yourself in the process—whether it’s quiet mornings, a favorite video game, or a weekly gym session.

Don’t give all of yourself to one thing. That’s the fastest route to burnout—and no one wants to end up there.